Several years ago, I watched a documentary on the Central Park 5. Before I knew it, I’d been sucked into their story. I remember them talking to the actual men present day. Their lives were completely changed since 1989. I felt sorry for them because even though they were living and working in their new cities and homes with families and “fresh starts,” but they had been robbed ... Read More
An Open Letter to the Clorinda’s of the World
Hey, Girl! You’ve been on a rollercoaster lately, huh? You’ve had a defining argument with one of your besties, lost a romantic relationship and a job all in one day. You randomly and finally shared a secret that’s been eating at you for years with a former partner. Life has definitely been life’ing. You feel misunderstood when all you’ve ever done is HELP the people you ... Read More
Dues vs. Deposits
"I wouldn't be a good friend if I didn't say this...The reality is we're lazy." A weekend girl chat turned into a therapy and truth-telling session. The "we" was our group of friend who talked until we were blue in the face about aspirations outside of our careers. For me, the action was either fluctuating or stalled altogether. As a writer, I'm often deciding what ideas ... Read More
Why Do We Measure Our Lives By Our Ages?
For as long as I can remember, I’ve been a bit preoccupied with the concept of age. I’ve always wanted to be grown, but never old. Making sure I’m “on trend” in terms of age and kind of life that goes along with it. When I turned 25, I remember my mom saying, “You’re about to be a ‘grown ass woman.' I wondered how and why at 25 instead of 23 or 27? I gave in to anxieties of ... Read More
Friendship and Life Sh*t
“We’re always gon’ have life shit.” - Tiffany DuBois You’re out here living your best life with your crew, having long vent sessions, seeing rotations of love interests, girls nights out and girl trips, then BOOM you or your friend has something major to drop, and despite happiness (pregnancy, relationship/marriage, career advancement) or empathy (illness, family issues, ... Read More